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Tuesday, August 3, 2010

Reality Check Reality Shows

Is marriage a joke? Is making money so important that key players in the TV industry can go around playing with the lives of gullible young women and men.

This is in lieu of the recent rift between Rahul Mahajan and his new bride Dimpy. There were lakhs of women who wanted to marry the high profile Rahul Mahajan. For one i do not understand why anybody would want to marry that guy, especially after all that Rahul Mahajan is well known for. At 20 even if i was publicity hungry, i would never risk my life to go and marry a influential person who is known for all the wrong reasons. Where is the zest to do something all by yourself and be known for what you are and not what your spouse is? Even today, I want to be known as Anandita and not as Showmic's wife. Its an identity thing.  I don't even know what that guy does for a living for Gods sake ?

Reality shows have made a mockery of audiences and gullible, publicity hungry youngsters. What happened at Rakhi's shows. She finally decided not to marry after months of speculation, she dropped out. Well, good for her and maybe it was the right decision for her. How can you marry someone on a show? Marry someone who has come to be famous? Marriage and wedding are two different things. Marriage begins after the wedding is over. Once the wedding is over, the TRUE reality creeps in. That is the reality of life, not a stupid TV show.

I feel sorry for Dimpy Ganguly. She is stuck in her commitment. I am sure at her age she would have never contemplated things going horribly wrong the way it did. Worse of all, she has no back up plan. No education to support herself, no parental support nothing. Her life must be a dark hole now, living with a man who is possibly psychotic. It is now that we realize how important education is for everyone. Good luck to Dimpy for that. But on a broader level, why doesnt Rahul's mom force him to take therapy? If she cares for him she should. However, i noticed her indifference during Rahul's BIG WEDDING. Is she at all involved in his life at any level? I really doubt.

I do not where this whole one way rambling is going. But i would like your feedback on this. It is not about Dimpy and Rahul. It is about reality shows ( Perfect Bride, Swayamvar et al ), it is about marital abuse. Girls like Dimpy should stand up for themselves or be content living under the thumb of their oppressors. Divorce should not be treated as a taboo. It should be used for sure in situations like this. Right or wrong, parents should support their child and not think about the society. Today people will talk, tomorrow they will applaud.

Human nature is voyeuristic.  We are always interested to know whats going on in our neighbours life. And if they are going through troubled times, its just a lot of topics to talk about. People do not really care, except a few. Even in Dimpy's case, TOI must be selling bundles and bundles of papers daily for each breaking news, but only Dimpy knows the reality of her life. We can only talk about it as a gossip mongers.

Rahul should be jailed. His wings should be chopped and and he should be found sitting in a jail for harassing his wife. I do not care if he has a personality disorder or not therefore I don't want to give him the benefit of the doubt. He has committed a crime and he should be punished.

And Girls please have some sense, i know its difficult to think rationally at that age. But please, MARRIAGE with a stranger is not exactly the right way of having fun. I have been 21, I have done stupid things, which could have put me in trouble too. But I had a huge gang of REALLY REALLY GOOD FRIENDS and i knew i WAS SAFE. So to begin with get a set of really good friends you can trust and you can be rest assured you will never take an idiotic step in your life.

BE SAFE and Maintain your dignity.

Lastly, on friendships week, i thank all my friends... to be there for me... bugging me but loving me all the same... love you all...

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